or wanting "NO PAIN, ALL GAIN", when one need "NO PAIN, NO GAIN".
Yeaps, this tiny fact was awakened in my memories again, even as the trainer talks about how emotional wounds heal. Basically he was saying it's just follows the law of recovery in nature, which is to say it's akin to how physical wounds heal. When you have a physical wound, you must take care to keep it clean and let the body heal itself. Basically, as the wound heals and closes up, you will feel pain; but it's normal to feel the pain. If the feeling is successful, the pain will be gone and all that's left is a closed-up wound, or scar. The scar is not painful, but it's there to remind you that you've been wounded.
Similarly, for emotional and mental wounds, you need time for the injury to heal and "close up". Many a times, we just tell the injured party to just forgive, thinking that's it's only a point of decision in time. While it is a point of decision, the trainer was saying forgiveness and healing comes at the end of a process. The injured person have to have time to "grieve" and have his moment of catharsis, and appropriate help in due time of course.
As usual, my mind went off tangent during the lesson. I was think of more how many a times we just want healing without the pain. It's like praying, "Lord, heal me! But dun let me have the pain!" I'm not being masochistic here, and wanting to have more pain than what we can bear. But if I'm hearing the trainer correctly, pain is part and parcel of the healing process.
Ok, I'm overshooting again. In a nutshell, don't be afraid to embrace pain! Sometimes the healing is painful but necessary.
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